Stories from the Frontlines: A Soldier Returning to Baghdad

“Stories from the Frontlines: Letters to President Barack Obama” is a new media campaign launched to underscore the urgent need for congressional action and presidential leadership at this critical point in the fight to repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT). Every weekday morning as we approach the markup of the Defense Authorization bill in the Senate and House Armed Services Committees, SLDN and a coalition of voices supporting repeal, will share an open letter to the President from a person impacted by this discriminatory law. We are urging the President to include repeal in the Administration’s defense budget recommendations, but also to voice his support as we work to muster the 15 critical votes needed on the Senate Armed Services Committee to include repeal. The Defense Authorization bill represents the best legislative vehicle to bring repeal to the president’s desk. It also was the same vehicle used to pass DADT in 1993. By working together, we can help build momentum to get the votes! We ask that you forward and post these personal stories.
May 14, 2010
President Barack H. Obama
The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue Northwest
Washington, DC 20500
Dear Mr. President,
I am writing to you from a kitchen in the state of Washington. The love of my life is in the other room. It has been eight months since I saw him last and I cherish every moment we spend together. Next week, my mid-tour leave will be over and I will return to Iraq and finish my second deployment. I don’t know when I’ll see my partner again.
When serving in a war zone, you learn quite a bit about yourself and what’s important to you. I’ve had the chance to work on a close and personal level with the people of Iraq, and in doing so, I have realized more than ever that the freedoms we enjoy as Americans should not be taken for granted – we must protect them at all costs. These freedoms are essential to the very foundation of our society. Yet so many men and women who fight for these freedoms aren’t allotted their own. Our freedom to love and be loved by whomever we choose. The freedom to live of a life of truth and dignity.
Recently I was informed that the military was investigating me for violating the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” law. Another service member had apparently “outed” me. At first I felt free: I didn’t have to lie anymore. But after that initial sense of relief, I’m left knowing just how little the Pentagon and the United States government think of me.
Mr. President, my unit is extremely undermanned. We’re working around the clock in Baghdad. My commander informed me that the Army cannot afford to lose me. I was told that they would prepare my discharge paperwork, “stick it in a Manila envelope, and keep it in a desk -- for now.”
One moment they wanted to throw me out and the next they are hiding evidence to keep me in.
My comrades now know that I am gay, and they do not treat me any differently. Work runs as smoothly as ever, and frankly the only difference I see -- besides my pending job loss -- is that I am free of the burden of having to constantly watch my words and ensure my lies are believable.
Having this out in the open makes things a bit less stressful. But it’s also clear the Army is only keeping me around until they are done with me. After I have served my two deployments -- and only a year shy of separating from the military honorably -- I suspect they will kick me to the street.
It’s bad enough that there is a law that denies tens of thousands of service members from serving with integrity, but it’s even worse when such a law is carried out with such inconsistency, without any warning of when it might come down.
If my suspicions are true, my discharge will move forward after my deployment. I am good enough to serve in war, but not at peace? I will never be at peace until this law is repealed – and neither will my partner. In fact, he won’t even be informed if I am killed in action. That might be the hardest part for us both.
Mr. President, when you took office I remember watching your inauguration knowing that history was being made. I remember feeling like this weight was being lifted off of my shoulders. I truly believed in you, and I still do.
But, Mr. President, please keep your promise to me.
Please do everything in your power to help Congress repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” this year. Our government called upon us to fight for our country. So many of us answered the call; we did not delay. We were sent world’s away to defend your freedoms. Mr. President, won’t you fight for mine?
With deep respect,
A soldier returning to Baghdad
(The writer is currently serving and unable to identify himself publicly.)
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6 Comments
Comments for this entry are closed.andy sigears in sf ca on May 17, 2010 at 07.08 pm
I served was SETAF soldier of the year and I am gay.
Rich on May 14, 2010 at 05.20 pm
I wonder if it’s possible to get copies of the unit punishment logs for all of the units where we know there are openly gay or lesbian servicemembers? The point of this exercise would be to examine the data on the amount of punishment that is being administered based upon the premise that the presence of gays and lesbians is bad for good order an discipline in the armed forces. If that argument holds water, then the records on punishment administered through UCMS should reveal an increase in those units with gay and lesbian servicemembers. It should be a fairly easy concept to disprove through a FOIA request for the actual punishment data where we know gays and lesbian servicemembers are serving openly.
Michael @ LeonardMatlovich.com on May 14, 2010 at 04.19 pm
“I was told that they would prepare my discharge paperwork, ‘stick it in a Manila envelope, & keep it in a desk—for now’.”
TRANSLATION: When we no longer need you…or if you aren’t killed…we’ll kick you to the curb faster than you can say, “God bless America.”
NOTHING better demonstrates the rotten-to-its-core hypocrisy of Barack Obama & Robert “Not Yet” Gates, et al., than the decades-long practice of stop-loss of which this soldier’s story is but one of thousands. They like to pretend that stop-loss is not only entirely new but ridiculously & dangerously unworkable.
The facts, as documented by the Palm Center.
Allen Berube’s “Coming Out Under Fire”: In WWII, an “adjutant general ordered the commanding general of the West Coast Air Corps Training Center in California to review the cases of some men ALREADY CONVICTED OF SODOMY “to determine their respective availability for military service” with “the view of conserving all available manpower for service in the Army.” He canceled the men’s dishonorable discharges & made them eligible for reassignment AFTER COMPLETING THEIR PRISON SENTENCES!
1945: facing manpower shortages during the final European offensive in Europe, Secty of War Harry Stimson, ordered a review of all gay discharges & ordered commanders to “salvage” homosexual soldiers for service whenever necessary.
The # of men discharged for being gay during WWII was only in the low thousands out of 16 MILLION men who served. That’s A LOT of “looking the other way” no matter how low one thinks the incidence of homosexuality is in the population.
1950, during the Korean War, there were only 483 discharges.
1953, when the Armistice was signed, there were 1353.
1966, THE NAVY ALONE discharged 1708 gays, but as the war in Vietnam escalated, they started to drop, & by 1970 the Navy only discharged 461.
After our last troops left Vietnam in 1975, discharges began to go up again.
During the 1st Gulf War, a Pentagon spokesman said, “Any administrative procedure is dependent on operational considerations of the unit that would administer such proceedings.” READ: if they need cannon fodder bad enough, gay cannon fodder is just as good as straight.
“Gay GI’s Told, Serve Now, Face Discharge Later,” read a “Wall Street Journal” headline January 24, 1991.
In the 1999"Army Commander’s Handbook,” still in effect: “if discharge is not requested prior to the unit’s receipt of alert notification, discharge isn’t authorized. Member will enter active duty with the unit.”
Amplifying [or ignorant of] federal law 10 USC 12305 which Congress passed in 1983 [which Obama likes to pretend doesn’t exist], 3 days after 9/11, Bush signed an Executive Order authorizing stop-loss.
The highest # of discharges under DADT were in the 1st year of the Bush fils administration, 2001. But with his invasions of Afghanistan & Iraq, they began to fall, & continued to for each year but one, until by his last full year in office annual discharges had dropped by more than half.
In 2005, an Army spokesman acknowledged they were sending openly gay service members into combat in Iraq, insisting that it was just to prevent people from using claims of being gay to get out of combat.
Last year, Obama announced a build-up in Afghanistan, & discharges dropped still further.
“By deploying suspected homosexuals with their units, the services bring into question their own argument that the presence of homosexuals seriously impairs the accomplishment of the military mission.” - Congressional Research Service.
Many ask if the President is reading these letters. But they forget that all of this is NOT NEWS to him; that these letters echo things HE’s said himself multiple times, like this from 2007:
“In 1993, the Democratic Party faced a test of leadership, & our party failed that test. We had an opportunity to be leaders on the World stage in eliminating discrimination against gay & lesbian service members, to recognize the patriotism & heroism of the hundreds of thousands of gay & lesbian citizens who have served our country. Instead, we bowed to fear & prejudice. We were told that American soldiers weren’t ready to serve next to gay & lesbian comrades. We were told that our airmen, sailors & Marines would lose their ‘unit cohesion’ if we implemented a policy of equality. And so, rather than embracing leadership & principle, we embraced Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell-a policy that is antithetical to the values of honor & integrity that our military holds most dear.”
TRANSLATION: that’s what the husband of my opponent for the nomination did, but, trust me, I’ll be different.
Karen Hermann in Virginia on May 14, 2010 at 02.31 pm
Thank you for your service and best wishes for your safe return and the freedom to continue to serve our country.
Mike Lange in Riverside, California on May 14, 2010 at 02.27 pm
As a Soldier that was discharged under DADT in 2001 it angers me that 9 years later DADT is still around. Sometimes I wonder why even fight it? It’s very clear that our Countries leaders sleep well at night knowing the power they hold is preventing a class of people from being treated as EQUALS.
Then I read stories such as yours and I’m reminded why I (we) have to keep fighting for what’s right! I have never met you but know this, YOU matter and make a difference. Without your dedication to serve our Country, it wouldn’t be what it is today. THANK YOU! When you get deployed and ever want to vent or have a friend to talk to I’m here.
Mike Lange
Bill on May 14, 2010 at 01.27 pm
The solution to this anonymous soldier’s problem is very simple. (1) His Commander-in-Chief, our President, must read biographies of Truman and Johnson to learn about what real “spine” is and to understand how arm-twisting in Congress works. (2) He must get on his phone and call the easily identified Congress members who are dragging their feet on ending DADT in 2010 (the most important are on the Senate Armed Services Committee, resisting Sen. Levin’s unambiguous leadership). (3) He must demand DADT be ended with this year’s FY 2011 National Defense Authorization Act. (4) He must make clear that the DOD Study on implementation of the end of DADT, due in December 2010, can easily be incorporated as policy under a new law. (5) Finally, he can remind the ignorant, the bigots and the political cowards of the overwhelming evidence that good leadership makes a transition to Open Service possible without problems, as is fully documented in every one of our many allied countries who have ended their own versions of DADT.
And, if he wants to keep his own job and those of his allies in Congress, he must realize that voters respect decisiveness, action, and courage more than passivity and failure to keep promises.